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In the last few days, I bet you’ve said at least once, “I’m overwhelmed.” If you ever feel like you’re in a state of perpetual crisis, you’re always running late to wherever you go, or something always tends to happen right before you leave the house, this book is what you need!
When I first started reading Overwhelmed, I didn’t think I was very overwhelmed with life. I’m an empty-nester. I work from home and earn a partial living from my favorite hobby, which is writing. Life is good. As I started making my way through the book, however, I discovered things in my life that did indeed overwhelm me. And I learned a few vital things which have already put me on a road to recovering from being overwhelmed.
- Know what causes chaos in your life so you can work to remove it.
Women are often overwhelmed with taking care of children, working full-time jobs, trying to live on a budget, making sure everybody is healthy and happy. But there are other things that overwhelm us. Sometimes our past decisions make us feel like we’re trapped and that we can’t change our futures. But that’s not true. No poor decision or bad mistake can stop us from moving forward in our lives. If something is causing chaos in your life and it’s not vital for life, kick it out!
- You must get yourself out of the way.
You can’t make changes in your life or big decisions until you move out of the way, and it’s hard to deal with other peoples’ mess (the chaos makers) if you’ve got mess of your own.
When you’re facing a tough situation, like in a relationship with someone who causes havoc every time you see them, Kathi and Cheri say that pre-deciding what you’re going to do if a bad situation comes about can make all the difference. It definitely can!
- We set ourselves up for overwhelming failure when we place unrealistic expectations on our future selves.
Author Kathi Lipp explains that you must take care of your future self by realizing now that you’re just one person and you can’t overcommit yourself to things. If you decide ahead of time what you can and cannot handle, you may say no to more things, but you’ll say yes to the right things.
Life is always going to throw unexpected circumstances at us, but when we have a plan in place, we can be prepared for them.
- “Overwhelmed” is something that tries to steal our joy, but we can outwit this thief when we trade bitterness for hope.
Sometimes we’ve lived through so many disappointments, we can’t let ourselves hope for something better or experience joy. Kathi says when we protect ourselves from feelings of disappointment and rejection, we also insulate ourselves from joy and connection. It’s important that we deal with all the feelings that cause us to be overwhelmed so we can experience true joy. And of course, true joy is found only in Christ.
- Making a plan for your life and using a calendar for things you do on a regular basis is a must.
I started doing this at the beginning of 2016 and at first, I felt like it would overwhelm me to get reminders of what I needed to do. But after a year of using my Google calendar, I’ve grown to love knowing what I’ve got coming up each day and what time I need to do it. It helps me manage my time, and I don’t feel overwhelmed like I used to.
When you use a digital calendar, you see there are only so many hours in a day and only so many tasks you can accomplish as a human being. To-do lists which have 20 to 30 items on them are crazy! A digital calendar, however, makes more sense and helps you see your limitations.
I’m not a morning person, but I’ve started doing some things in the evening to prepare for the next morning even though I work from home. I pick out my clothes for the next day and have them in the bathroom ready for me to slip into. I put the water for my tea in my teapot so all I have to do is plug it in and turn it on. I study my Bible every morning before I turn the computer on because once I start work, I won’t get around to studying.
Something I want to do for 2017 is get up a little bit earlier and do some of my writing after I do my Bible study before I do my work. I’m naturally a night owl and I’m more creative after 9:00 p.m., so I’m not sure if I’ll be able to write then, but I’m at least going to try.
Having a plan in place each day helps you be more successful because no plan means no goals and that can equal chaos.
- Self-care is important and we often neglect it.
A lot of women find it hard to take time to pamper themselves because we’re so busy taking care of our families and our homes. We almost feel guilty if we take time for ourselves. Now that I’m an empty-nester and my life is a little bit slower, I can tell you that I wish I had followed this principle years ago. If I had set up a routine at the end of the day for myself to relax or gotten up a little earlier in the morning before the kids got up, I think I would have been a much nicer mom.
- Fewer relationships in life isn’t necessarily a bad thing.
Too many relationships cause us to feel overwhelmed when we try to keep up with what’s going on with everybody and we try to meet everybody’s expectations. You can’t be close friends or best friends with everybody you know.
- Make sure you keep safe people in your life.
If you’re going to put your trust in somebody it needs to be somebody who is trustworthy.
- It’s important to take a weekly Sabbath.
This is something I’ve known about my entire life, having grown up in a Southern Baptist church, but it’s something I haven’t practiced fully. Especially not since I’ve been an adult. It’s super difficult to turn everything off for a day.
One of my favorite lines in the book is this: God is still at work even when we are not.
God created the world in six days and rested on the seventh. We should be able to do our important things in six days and take a seventh day for rest as well.
The last couple of weeks, I’ve practiced setting aside Sundays after church and the whole rest of the day for a time of no computer and no work. I was amazed at how quickly I grew bored. I’m so used to being connected to work, my novels, and to people that it just felt strange to kick back and do nothing but read or decorate my Christmas tree or just sit and pet my dog. But I think the more I do it, I’ll grow to cherish that time. I wonder how this will work once I start writing my next novel, but I’m sure if I commit that time to the Lord, he will give me all the time I need to write.
Sometimes when we become overwhelmed, we throw ourselves a pity party. Author Cheri Gregory says the only problems with pity parties are that nobody brings us gifts, and the entertainment is terrible. That’s so true!
I hope you will RUSH and purchase this book tonight so you can receive the freebies, but even if you don’t do it tonight, please check it out and make it your next read of 2017!